What I Learned From My 20s

It feels like yesterday when I was celebrating my 21st birthday, but here I am coming to the end of my 20s. But you know what, I am so happy about every year I had the privilege of living through. If you are looking for advice from someone who is ending this era, then look no farther. Here is a list of things you need to know to make it through your 20s. 

1) Embrace every heartbreak
If you are lucky enough, you WILL experience heartbreaks. Now you ask, how is being heartbroken lucky? First of all, you were lucky enough to have loved someone and you were lucky enough to give your heart to someone you trusted. But the luckiest part of all, is being heartbroken and learning so much about yourself through it all. With every heartbreak, you find your self-worth. You will understand what makes you happy and you will begin to do things to help yourself find inner peace. Ultimately in the end, you will love yourself more than ever. So embrace every broken heart. It will all be worth it in the end. 

2) Get rid of negative friends
You might have a really good friend that you invested so much of your time and effort into, but you know the relationship is toxic. You just can't end your ties with such a good friend, but deep in your heart you know the relationship makes you a worst person. Well, I had a really close friend who I was friends with for a very long time. I cared about her, but she made my life miserable. You know what happened when I finally decided that the relationship had to end? I became a better person. I didn't have someone toxic constantly in my life. With time, you will be able to surround yourself with other positive people and untimely becoming a positive person will help you attract other positive friends. So what are you waiting for? Break that toxic relationship, you will love that you did!

3) Find balance in everything you do
Balance is the best way to find inner peace. Without balance you cannot be happy. Think about this, if you don't have a goal that you are working towards you will be unhappy. This is just human nature. Humans were made to have a purpose in life. On the other hand, if you are working way too hard then you will also find that you are unhappy. It is only when you find the perfect balance between a goal you love and time to yourself that you will find true inner peace. This concept of balance goes for everything else in your life. You want to balance your travels with work, your friends with family, your significant other with friends, and the list goes on. You can't find true happiness with just one thing. You need to always find balance in everything that you do.

4) Be single
Think about this, if you are lucky enough you will find a forever someone. They will be with you for the rest of your life... until death do you part. Why do you want to find just one person at such a young age and not do the crazy things a 20 year old can do? Seriously, you can go out and party all night, you can meet new people, you can travel the world, and the list goes on. If you are in your 20s, at some point, experience what it feels like to be alone and just content with yourself. Do all the crazy, single things you can think of before you get in a long term relationship. Trust me, your 30 year old self will thank you. 

5) Step out of your comfort zone
I know it can be scary to try something new, but don't be scared. Try new things that you never thought you would do. Step out of your comfort zone and discover new hobbies and interests. Meet new people and foster positive relationships. This is a time to truly understand your passions and interests. I always made a list of new things I wanted to do each year and tried to check off as many things I could. At the end of the year, I would look back and reflect on all the things that made me uncomfortable. Then I would think about how those things I was hesitant to do eventually became something so important to me. You never know what new thing will become part of your life forever.

6) Don't care about what others think
Seriously, do not care about what other people think. If there is something that you want to do, just do it! This was hard for me when I even started this blog. I had a constant fear of other people judging me. But you know what, if they are judging you for doing something you love, then they are not the positive people you want to surround yourself with. Be brave and do the things that you love; eventually, you will find people who are encouraging and supportive. Make yourself happy; don't try to make someone else happy.